On Feb 1, 2014, at 12:03 AM, GS Chandy <firstname.lastname@example.org> wrote:
> "Children must be PUSHED (or GOADED) to learn math!" (and presumably everything else).
Because most children would rather play with their friends than do times tables, solve problems or practice the piano. As parents we have the valuable ability to make them to do these things, while they are young, before they become adults. And that discipline usually wears off on them. Making them more productive and accomplished adults.
It?s parenting 101.
I am not sure if you are having a problem grasping what parenting is like, or if you just wish there was an easier way. I asked you before what your experience was raising children and you basically responded that it was none of my business. Did you have to make your kids study and do their homework or not? Did you have to make them practice the piano or did they naturally choose it over playing with their friends? If there was an easier way, we would be all over it. We are intelligent and successful people. And parents. Maybe it?s the element of competitiveness that makes us think differently about these things. I have always worked for a living and you are aware that I had to climb up from extreme poverty to get to where I am. On the other hand, you seem to have come from money, travelled freely, and attended school whenever and wherever you wanted. Other than your failed venture with OPMS, I am not sure that you ever had to work. At least Kirby has a resume of odd jobs. I! haven?t seen even that much from you. I have worked, literally and continuously, since I was 14.
I am only pointing this out because that would make a huge difference in our experiences and thoughts on how to raise children. I want my son to be the best he can be because I feel he will need this as an adult in order to make a life for himself. Especially with how our nation is now. And I have never seen this to be as easy as just asking him to be the best he can be. It involves a competitive spirit, a spirit you are likely not going to understand if you have never had to compete. I am the coach, he is the player, the game is life.