On Mar 18, 2014, at 9:58 PM, Joe Niederberger <email@example.com> wrote:
> R Hansen says: >> You suppose some are? Wow. Get out much?:) > > I worry about you getting out much. Baggy shorts attitude and goth attitude just don't phase me much I guess. Heroin, meth, crime, and gang violence do though. Are you positing some slippery slope here?
I am talking about concern. If your own kid started adopting those attitudes you would be concerned, wouldn?t you? You would also be concerned with who they were hanging out with. There is a lot more to a child's outcome than just their personal character. Their circumstances matter as much if not more. Sure, a strong personal character can overcome dire circumstances, but most kids have an average personal character, that is more easily scathed. Good circumstances come from caring. Caring about how your kids act and who they associate with (which is caring about how their associates act). Caring about the neighborhood they grow up in and where they go to school. Money isn?t the solution. Caring is. But I don?t know how to import caring into our blighted areas. Mentoring programs seem to be the best idea I have seen thus far. But breaking those bonds is really tough. I didn?t fully break free from my circumstances till I joined the service. And when I returned, all new good ! milieu.